Someone recently asked “How do you know if you’re in love?”
Too bad there is not just one answer…
Personally I have many different types of love and different ways to know tell if I am IN love! Not a single person has only one type of love. You love your family different than you love your friends. You love your husband different than you love your children. You can love your partner without being in love with them.
Some people it is love at first sight. Somehow they just know. Maybe they knew the person for a while before they met and when they met they knew they were the one. Maybe They saw each other across the room/field/train/plane/anything and saw this sparkle in each others eyes and the feeling was mutual, instant, head-over-heels in love.
Some people date and grow to love one another. There are no butterflies. You talk and spend time together and get to know each other. One day you think to yourself “This person doesn’t make me tick like the others do.” There is just getting to know who the other is and realizing that you can spend the rest of your life with them because they are the one.
Some people to the getting to know each other part THEN get butterflies because they realize “Holy crap. I love this person I have been talking to and spending all my time with. I’m in love!”
Some people base their feelings of love off of logic. They see that they let/allow/enjoy this person doing things for them/to them/with them that they would enjoy it if it were someone else doing those things. So if you enjoy that one person and not any of the other people in your life doing something you may be in love.
Some people are so confused when it comes to love they never find it.
Some people almost break up with each other then realize they love one another because that break up was too hard.
Some people realize they love someone when they think “I care too much about them…I must love them.”
Some people think too much about consequences of love and all the “what if’s” that they would never let themselves love someone else.
Some people are loved just because they have to be loved, like children.
Children are loved by many for many different reasons. Moms love their children out of instinct. Some parents love their children not out of instinct but because they love the person the child came from.
Some people love children because they love watching some other human life grow and how it acts and that you can teach this living, breathing thing that you are important to it.
Some people love children because they look at them like their own personal experiment.
Some people even love people that they do not like! For instance children and parents. You may not like your children or what they do but you love them with all your heart.
What do you guys think about this never-ending topic? Do you think you have to have butterflies to know you’re are in love or can you make being in love a matter of logic? Or will you just never know love?